We recently had a prospective client from NYC ask about how many messages we generally exchange with a woman before we get her to meet in person.
Our clients generally just want for us to exchange the least number of messages possible before setting up a date with the matches that they find most interesting.
So, we did a quick analysis of the first dates that we arranged for our male clients. We only looked at the dates where we sent the first message and a pre-date phone call was not required.
On average, we asked her to meet up after 5. This is the two-way exchange stat so, in more simple terms: We saw that most often it was on the second or third message we sent. We also learned that the client met her after an average of 9.
The range min and max no. This means the fastest we asked for the date was in the first message and the slowest was in the seventh.
The range of total messages exchanged before the first date waswhich represents the total number of back and forth messages that were exchanged before all the details were worked out about where and when to meet.
In 2 cases ofwe sent her 10 messages and she sent us 8 prior to the first date. If you are exchanging tons of messages before you try to take online dating offline, you are probably wasting your time.
Even though online dating is helpful in quickly filtering through the masses to find some people that may be worth meeting, it is very difficult to know if there will be any chemistry before you meet in person. One of the top blunders that men make on online dating sites is building an online relationship.